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I am reading a lot of posts and articles on facing trauma due to separation, the reason behind it etc etc. They all probably most of the time conclude that ‘The other is hell’.
I am sharing my opinion here as below :-
1) With How much totality you loved the other selflessly?
2) How much you cared for the needs of the other wholeheartedly? and
3 How much you helped compassionately even at the cost of harming yourself or your career as an authentic being?
These are the main points in any relationship what matters most in ‘spiritual journey’ while we are enjoying material world. While we think that it is Love that matters most, but actually it may be possible that we even do not know what is love?
The other is just an opportunity to teach us a lesson or test our love, care and helping attitude. When our any relationship get ruined then we are left with these answers. And if they fill your heart with confidence that you did your best then you are not going to feel alone at all! So the other has helped you to learn how to live alone!
There is a part in brain called Claustrum and I am saying from my personal experience that it remains defunct or acts as a slave in every person except every information needs to passes through it compulsorily.
The contentment or satisfaction of doing our best by doing acts as described above is like collecting a drop of honey or nectar in this case, while living in this poisonous world (jahar bhare is jeevan mein Amrit peekar jeena hai).
These nectar drops gets collected in our claustrum and one day when it is full of then it gets activated again and start functions as a king of the brain. It is as if we are consciously collecting needed coins/life in a game to unlock super power so that we could complete the stage successfully.
This is entering the kingdom of god as a king as Jesus says. This is called as becoming surkh rooh by Mohammad.
I wanted to share my views from personal experiences in my spiritual journey. How I lived all through my life?
And I was at loss everywhere in comparison to my friends, family members and colleagues but what I found is blissfulness, ecstasy and eternal life in return.
Neither I was heading towards it nor I was trying to mix with society after my separation with spouse.
Just kept trying, learning, unlearning and relearning with don’t know approach. What has helped me, apart from awareness meditation, is worth sharing here
Osho says we do not know why we exist at first place?. So we need to either know why we exists or live as if you do not exist at all for yourself. I have written an article that we exist and don’t exist simultaneously.
Here is some suggestions if you wish to practically implement them and experiment in your life to experienced their outcome. This learning through own experience helps in growing inner wisdom. This is your own personal experiences that is going to help you in your inner journey. You are unique. Everyone is unique in this sense, but mind gets it imposed on body to form pseudo entity Ego.
No scripture, no outside assistance, not even these posts on my blogs are of any help because it is your personal uniqueness that you have to discover and everything outside is prepared keeping in mind to help masses. Be it religion or rules or blogs.
As we grow we need to become more efficient so as to earn our bread and butter hence we become robotic. While in our childhood we acted consciously during every act. This is why even the work was relaxing like a play. This awareness that we have lost is needed to be regained or discovered. It can be discovered only if our focus remains on ourself. If we keep focusing on the other then one day we are going to conclude ‘The other is hell’ for sure.
Osho says “At any moment you close your eyes, first you will see thoughts, a layer of thinking all around you, thoughts vibrating – one coming, another going – a crowd, a traffic. Remain silent for a few seconds, and suddenly you will see that thinking is no longer there but dreaming has started. You are dreaming that you have become the president of a country, or you have found a brick of gold on the road, or you have found a beautiful woman or a man, and suddenly you start projecting; dreams start functioning. If you continue dreaming for a long time, one moment will come when you will fall asleep – thinking, dreaming, sleep, and from sleep again to dreaming and thinking. This is how your whole life revolves. Real awareness is not known yet, and that real awareness is what Patanjali says will destroy ignorance – not knowledge, but awareness. We collect knowledge just to befool ourselves and others.”—————-Osho, Yoga:The science of the soul.
The mind is biggest hurdle in our inner journey. It is helpful too but only up to a certain altitude after that it needed to be disconnected from it because then it starts creating more trouble. So just like first stage of rocket engine is left to drop on the Earth so that the satellite can be launched in its orbit, our mind too needs to be dropped in subtle way so that even the mind could not recognise being dropped!
Awareness meditation is of great help in getting this job done.
Osho says “The deep problem is: how to become aware, how not to be unconscious. From where to start? Don’t try to fight with some very deep-rooted habit. You will be defeated. Start with very neutral habits.
For example: you go for a walk; just be aware that you are walking. (Try to Walk with witnessing consciousness).
Awareness meditation is the way worked for me and I tried it first during brushing my teeth in the morning after trying 8-10 meditations over period of 15 years! So there is no need to reinvent the circle for you. May be you too find it suitable otherwise with Dynamic meditation and/or Kundalini in the evening it is suitable for most of the people. There are 110 other meditation techniques discovered by Indian Mystic Gorakhnath about 500years before and further modified by Osho for contemporary people that one can experiment and the suitable one could be practiced in routine life.
My experiences may be of your help in taking only one step. Because everyone has to move forward alone, this is the nature of this journey.
In my life mindfulness or awareness meditation helped miraculously. Apart from that living a simple, authentic and totality in life is very helpful even when we are serving people around us with great love and care without discrimination.
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